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Tuesday, August 13, 2013

No Laughter, This Was Stylish Then....


We have been doing quite a business of wedding flowers, mostly bulk flowers but a few full wedding party flowers.  It has been fun, frantic and fantastic to help brides achieve their perfect day and while I help them dream and scheme and put together their flower choices, I am taken back to our wedding day many years ago. I have been thinking about that day a lot and well, today is our anniversary.  Our 30th anniversary!  Wow, you write it down and it seems like a looong time ago and yet it seems like only yesterday.  You know, time flies when you are having fun.  

Thirty years, whoa.... there were folks who said we wouldn't go the distance and in the beginning Farmer Tony told me I only had to do the first five and then I could opt out.  But I missed the deadline and was in it for the long haul.  We both being kind of on the stubborn side, decided to prove the naysayers wrong and stay the course, but also being frugal  figured divorce was too expensive and besides we were too lazy to do any of the paper work.  So here we are today, thirty years together, working together and have managed to get along.

Okay, here are the pictures, no laughing at the styles and remember photos in those days were not that great....


                            Hats were big in those days and I actually looked better in a hat than a veil. 


The day was hot as hell, over 100 degrees and we were getting married in the evening, so we are both sweating it out and I was as nervous as can be. It shows....

While working on the bridal flowers for the gals this year and looking at all the incredible ideas found on Pinterest, I kept thinking, it is about who you are marrying and a little less about the stuff.  We have similar interests but are also completely different.  Farmer Tony is very analytical, extremely focused and is very unemotional.  Kind of a lesser version of  Sheldon  from "The Big Bang Theory"  I am the creative, emotional, cry over movies and stories, overthinking, want to please everyone type of gal. I can get lost in the weeds of projects and at times will procrastinate on tasks that overwhelm me.  Yet we both function well in society, our work and with our friends because we bring out those qualities needed in each other.  I have helped Farmer Tony see beauty in music, art, plays, flowers and more.  He can make a beautiful bouquet, a fine meal and is a great hugger.  He is nurturing when I am sick and loving with our dogs.  As for me, he helps me be so much more organized, listens to my wandering chatter, helps me focus and get stuff done and is a constant cheerleader of what I can do and will do.  And we both make each other laugh. 



When I look at these two kids, or as my parents used to call us teasingly (punk ass college kids), sitting in a convertible and ready to ride off into the sunset thinking they know everything and life was going to be a piece of cake. I think wait, you have no idea what is ahead. Blink and it is thirty years later and I realize we  knew nothing at the time.  Life has not been a piece of cake. It has been full of ups and downs, joys and many sorrows but we have weathered it together, side by side. We have endured job triumphs and losses, loved ones passing and health issues that make life challenging.  But we are both doing what we really want to be doing.  I was a school teacher and enjoyed it but really really wanted to be a florist or run a greenhouse.  Farmer Tony was in finance/accounting and was the chief financial officer of a corporation but wanted out of the cubicle world and  to work outdoors on the land.  And here we are today, doing what we really really wanted to do.  No, it is not an easy job, especially for two old folks, flower farming is really a younger folks kind of thing.  But we will figured it out and find what works best for us. 

So Happy Anniversary to us!  Thirty years of sticking together, working hard and making each other laugh.  On to the next milestone of 50 years. Yikes... another twenty more... blink and we will be there... together we hope!



" The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a growing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life."
~Hugh Walpole, Sr.

10 comments:

  1. Happy 30th Anniversary. Marriage is an adventure. Love, forgiveness, encouragement, commitment, and laughter go into the making of a life together. We weather storms, smile at rainbows, every day is a new day to love and be loved.

    May you have many more anniversaries. I enjoyed your photos, you were a lovely bride and a handsome groom and I enjoyed your thoughts.

    Love and hugs ~ FlowerLady

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    1. Just wanted to thank you so much, Lorraine, for the beautiful sentiments and wishes. It really brighten our day!

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  2. Happy 30th anniversary. We just celebrated our 31st this year and I know exactly what you mean...what???? where did that come from? Sometimes it feels as if it was just yesterday, I think that's a good thing. A beautiful post for a beautiful couple, I wish you many more.

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    1. Thank you so much Amelia! We talked about that last night, remembering the day and it is so funny what we each remember about that day. I thought I was the one with the long memory but he remembers things too. Who would thought? Haha!

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  3. Dear god, 30 years, that's impressive.

    I love you both in the wedding pictures. The hat is something new to me (and not because I'm too young to have been around)and I love you in it.

    Your story is wonderful and inspiring and all around happy making.

    Enjoy today, then get back to work!

    xo Jane

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    1. Thanks so much Jane, for the beautiful words. I am always inspired by your blog and I am right back to work after this thank you.

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  4. Your blog pretty much sums up marriage good advise to those getting married today. Love the picture of the two of you on the convertible. It's nice how your lives turned full circle now you both can enjoy every day together farming.

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    1. Thanks so much. It is a lot of hard work but we are enjoying it.

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  5. Hi Denise and Tony,
    Happy Anniversary. You both are very lucky to share the same passion (and what a great passion it is!)
    Christa

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    1. Thank you so much Christa. Sometimes we get on each others' nerves but we are both working really hard to make it all work and have some fun on the side.

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